1. Love does not hurt. Physical and/or
emotional abuse are not a part of love.
2. Love is not manipulative,
it should not be used to get others to do what you want. You
should never give in to demands based on the, "You
would do it if you loved me!" tactic.
3. Love is an intense feeling of caring for another
person. It can take many different forms (romantic, friendly,
familial) but it is always about caring.
4. Although it is true that a big part
of love is putting another person's happiness ahead
of your own this never includes compromising your values
or being untrue to yourself.
5. If somebody asks you to do something that you don't
want to do in order to "prove" your love they
do not love you the way you might think they do. When you love
another person you don't ask them to sacrifice a part
of themselves in the name of that love.
6. It is very easy to confuse lust for love. The true measure
of romantic love is commitment and trust not physical attraction.
7. It is possible to feel romantic love
for more than one person at a given time. Just think, if it
is possible for you to love both of your parents at the same
time why would it be impossible to feel romantic love for
two people at once? Don't beat yourself up emotionally
if you find yourself in this unhappy situation. But be sure
to remain single and be open and honest with all parties
about your feelings and confusion.
8. Sex is NOT love. Love is NOT sex. Sex can be a part
of romantic love but it is never mandatory.
9. Romantic love can (and often does) fade. When it goes
there is not always a reason. When somebody falls out of
love with you it does not reflect upon your value as a person
or your desirability.
10. Love should make you feel happy, secure and appreciated
